Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Things about marriage I wish someone had told me...

I feel there is a lack of information shared when you get married. I really had no idea how much different everything was going to be. I feel like when you get engaged they should show you the fine print and make you sign off on it so you know what your getting.

1. If you marry someone more than a foot taller than you, they will not understand why it is a problem to put the canned goods on the top shelf.

2. Boys eat WAY more food than you thought was possible. Logic tells you that your grocery bill will double. That my friend is not true. It will at least triple. Recipes for 2 just don't cut it. Cook for 4.

3. Laundry- see number 2. 1 person... 1 week.... 2 loads of laundry. 2 people... 1 week... 8 loads of laundry. The math doesn't add up!

4. Suddenly everyone becomes an expert on babies. Everyone feels the need to weigh in on exactly when you need to have them, how many, how to best raise them and other awkward things. 6 months ago the fact you didn't have kids was a glorious thing your parents were proud of. The day you say I do, it becomes a bad thing. The man you haven't seen since you were about 15 will give you his opinion. Count on it. Just go ahead a prepare a side stepping answer now. You will have to use it 567 times over holidays.

5. The first 6 months you have to discuss EVERYTHING.... Nothing is off limits. Things you never thought you would have a conversation about you will. What kind of laundry detergent do we use? Which side of the bed do we sleep on? All these are things you have to discuss.

6. You can't think anything is "common sense". Just because thats how your family has always done it, does not mean thats how his family does it.

7. Opposites attract, so if you are detail orientied and being late gives you an anxienty attack?You will marry the guy who starts getting ready at the time you need to leave. You will be 15-20 minutes late for everything moving forward. Get the anti anxiety pills ready now! Get a lifetime prescription.

8. If your the detail orientied person, I think you are destined to forever be the bad guy. The one who has to say no you can not install a flat screen tv in the bathtub. Or the one who says, no you can not fly to Arkansas all 4 weekends in May. I don't care who is having a batchelor party.

9. Going out to dinner is no longer a "date", it is a sign that you both had to work all week and no one went to the grocery store.

10. If your feelings get hurt easily, it will happen alot. You have to develop some thicker skin. Once you get married "You can come if you want..." is your invitiation. That's as a good as it gets.

11. Coming home to a clean apartment is the most romantic gesture in the world. When your working 10-12 hour days and your apartment is a nightmare and you come home and see your apartment has been cleaned the world is complete.

12. You will live in the same house, but you will still go days without seeing each other. He will be sleeping when you leave for work, he will be gone when you get home, and you will be asleep before he returns.

13. When you are asking if he wants you to go with him somewhere and he says "I don't care you can do what you want" He's probably not trying to tell you, I could care less if your with me or not. Apparently boys language is different then girls. Because that is what I would mean.

14. Football is more important than anything else. It can will dominate an entire day. So just don't make any plans that day even if its your birthday. And learn to mildly appreciate the game.

15. Even after the hurt feelings, annoyances and frustrations... you would still do it again tomorrow. Because thats what you do for people you love.

2 comments:

  1. I was going to sit you down and tell you all this, but I thought I might be overstepping my bounds. Somethings get easier, but you're right, boys don't communicate like girls. It takes time to figure it all out. Love you Jessa.

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